Smell The Roses

When was the last time you stopped to smell the roses? Although this statement has become a cliché there is a lot to be said for it. With all of the technology available to us in the 21st century we can make ourselves available for communication 24/7, and most of us have been drawn into this lifestyle. We have become used to global timelines and putting work before our family, and our family and others before ourselves. But really what good are we to anyone if we do not look after ourselves? We simply don't have time to smell the roses anymore. When was the last time you took the dog for a walk or went to pick up a child from an activity and you spent each moment getting more and more frustrated because they were delaying you from finishing that report or keeping you from that important meeting?

The next time you find yourself in a similar situation, take a deep breath, watch the child or dog or cat (i.e. your source of frustration) and share the moment with them. Join them in their moment; make them the object of your focus. Forget work for a little while and enjoy life for a few precious moments. Life is too short. You never know what is going to happen, so make time for yourself and start smelling the roses. Nothing is so profoundly important that it cannot wait for 30 minutes or an hour or two. It can certainly wait a moment.

An added bonus is that when you do return to the task, your mind will be surprisingly clearer and you will do a better job at whatever it may be. I often find my inspiration comes when I walk away from the computer and not when I am sitting in front of it. We are human and each one of us is unique. We all have our problems and our own way of dealing with them. Never underestimate how a problem can affect a friend or family member. Their problem may be small to you, but in the perspective of their life experiences it could seem insurmountable to them. Encourage them to take a moment for themselves. Sometimes just listening or giving a hug or a smile can make a huge difference.

So in an attempt to lift our spirits and make the world a better place, let's all decide right now to take a moment at least twice a day for ourselves, to smell the roses, watch the birds and squirrels, and appreciate the sun, rain and nature. Be still. Don't think. Just be. Breathe and take a moment to appreciate what is good.

Finally, I would like to share my favourite quotations from "Guardians of Being" by Eckhart Tolle to help you find those moments of peace and relaxation. 

"True happiness is found in simple seemingly unremarkable things." 

"Give yourself completely to the act of listening. Beyond the sounds there is something greater: a sacredness that cannot be understood through thought". 

And last but not least: 

"The human says, "I love myself," or, "I hate myself." The dog says, "Woof, woof," which translated means "I am myself."

I call that integrity – being one with yourself.